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The nature versus nurture debate involves whether human behavior is determined by the environment, either prenatal or during a person’s life, or by a person’s genes. GO!
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A person with a personality disorder thinks, feels, behaves or relates to others very differently from the average person. GO!
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Your personality affects who you’re attracted to and you are most suited to. GO!
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Are you one of life’s victims, where everything that happens is someone else’s fault, or can you make the most of your (sometimes bad) experiences? GO!
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Some Initial Thoughts
What is it?
Personality is one of the most complex area of the body. You cannot touch It, feel it, monitor it, isolate it or treat it, yet it can influence every part of the body positively or negatively.
Can it change and what does it affect?
It can change over time and is sensitive to its surroundings. It can become damaged or developed by external circumstances. It influences our match making preferences, our social circles and our wellbeing.
What do we know about it?
There is much written about our personality yet many don’t know their own personality or pay much attention to it until we are emotionally intelligent enough to manage it. We have attempted to take a holistic approach to personality and character.
Facts About Personality
are extraversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and openness developed in the 1970s
is based on nationality (2017 study published in the journal PLOS ONE)
experience symptoms of at least one personality disorder (National Institute of Mental Health. Personality disorders. Updated November 2017)
of our personality change as we age (anxiety levels, friendliness, and eagerness for novel experiences) while the rest remain stable (researcher Paul T. Costa Jr)
Personality - nature or nurture?
Part of the answer to your question is that some of your personality comes from your parents. Just as parents pass down physical traits like hair and eye colour to their offspring, they can also give them different personality traits. They’re in your genes, the information passed throughout generations.
But your personality isn’t set in stone from the beginning. There are a few other things that go into it. A significant amount of your personality [up to 50%] comes from parents but the rest is developed via environmental and social influences. Personality is broken down into 5 key areas; openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.
Studies on heritability of personality have found that between 15 and 55 percent of the overall variance in our personality is due to genetic differences (Power & Pluess, 2015).
One important thing to remember is your personality and character can change over time. As your life experiences develop you do change your behaviour. Also, it is fair to say that if you have 2 parents who are very different you may possess strong traits of one parent at an earlier age and as you gain more life experience the other parents traits would come to the surface.
So, whilst there are personality traits tests and there is a huge amount of information on personality types you have to take a holistic view, taking into account DNA and inherited traits, lifestyle changes, your attitude and characteristics such as Locus of Control elements, Mood types and lifestyle situation.
Experience shows that you can take these tests at different stages in your life and when your circumstances and environment are influencing your thought process your choices may be different. Also, as you get older your life experience does make you look at life differently.
So a simple example is: what is your attitude and desire to change? Firstly, look at your family history: can they demonstrate a high level of personal change or are they quite traditional and don’t like change. These traits often pass down to the next generation.
Personality versus character
What is the difference between personality and character? Well, the experts say personality is inherited and more identifiable whereas character is learned and more difficult to assess. This is quite contradictory because experts equally say only up to 50% of personality is inherited and the rest is learned through life. Either way it doesn’t really matter. It’s better to say personality and character are equally important when considering a holistic review of yourself.
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Or are they?
Sometimes in this modern-day world we want to label people or give every condition a label. I wonder if this is for professionals or for the general public who can tell others: Sorry for my behaviour I have XXXXXX ism and cannot help it.
Another important observation to make is all extreme types of anything can have an adverse effect on individuals or others. It is the word extreme that counts here. If you read some of the definitions below of what experts called disorders you could say everyone on the planet has some of these attributes some could even be seen as useful or positive.
Narcissism is a great example and is often used today to criticise others for what could be perceived as holding an opinion of a subject. People often use these labels nowadays in a negative way calling a person a narcissist just for holding a view/belief/attitude/ behaviour that is polarised to theirs. You will see below the extreme versions of personality disorder. But we would suggest you temper the extreme and look at the words and in a positive context, see there are some traits that are positively beneficial.
Another well-worn word in 2020 is misogynistic. Again, it seems this word is bandied around by people who label others misogynistic when they hold a different opinion. The word Misogyny conventionally means hatred of women, was once a radical accusation. But in recent time, it seems to have eclipsed the gentler “sexism” and “chauvinism” in popular use. So, the original word was to hate women and this has now been hijacked and turned into a broader description and quite frankly anyone could make a sexist or chauvinistic statement because it is often the listener who determines whether it is or not. Again, modern behaviour is to reel off a list of describing words aimed at someone who holds a different view. In a free world is a person not allowed to hold their own personal views?
The opposite of a narcissist is an ’empath’. People who are very receptive to the emotions of others are known as empaths. Because they are also sensitive to noise, smell, and being around people, they are likely to feel overwhelmed in crowds and exhausted in social situations. Empaths sometimes struggle with daily life. They pick up on negative emotions from other people and actually absorb those feelings onto themselves.
The reality is the world is made up of all different types, shapes, views, beliefs, attitudes, behaviours. It makes the world go around and be a varied place. Everyone has a role to play. Too many of one type can be damaging for society.
The Three Groups of Personality Disorders [medical generic journal definitions]
Professionals consider someone to have a personality disorder if their symptoms significantly impair their relationships with themselves and others. Furthermore, these issues must be the result of pathological traits and remain consistent throughout different situations. However, their personality disorder symptoms cannot be due to normal developmental behaviours or the influence of substances.
There are 10 different personality disorders, each with different symptoms. Professionals sort these disorders into three clusters: A, B, and C. The disorders within these clusters make patients think and behave in similar ways.
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Personality and Family DNA
We said earlier personality and character come from the parents and learned life experience. Also, and importantly in the early years before birth up to 5, there are things we develop during the growing stages whilst in our mother’s body and during the breast-feeding years that mould our character.
A note of caution should always be applied to evidence and research in that it’s not always black and white and what is said as hard fact in data can be shown to be incorrect in reality especially where personality and character are concerned. it’s like horoscopes not all Taurean’s for example are bullish and stubborn.
Quick Genetics Refresher: You have 46 chromosomes and they are in a specific equation made up of 23 pairs. These pairs are called DNA and is made up of four letters: T, C, G, and A. It looks like a twisted ladder with one side given by your dad and the other side given by your mom. The very last pair (pair 23) is the sex chromosome and it can be XX or XY. Other chromosomes can have mutations that are expressed as various conditions like Down's syndrome, sickle cell disease, or Fragile X syndrome.
Here are some traits we can pick up from our mother:
Sleeping Style, Hair Colour, Hair Texture, Temper, Healthy Eating Habits, Dominant Hands, Migraines
A new study shows that because intelligence is carried over into the baby with two X chromosomes from the mother and one from the father, this could have an effect on the baby’s level of intelligence. A second study showed that despite education, race and socio-economic class, the IQ level of the mother could be a good indicator for that of a baby.
What you might pick up from your father:
Height, Dental Health, Dimples, Toes, Fingerprint, Mental Disorders, Handedness
You’re more likely to share your dominant hand with your father over your mother if one is left-handed and one is right-handed.
All jokes aside, nature was designed specifically to create varying equations resulting in varying humans. This is yet another beautiful reminder to never judge other people– especially people you know nothing about. You never know what is going on in their world–literally and genetically. We are all very complex individuals and the way we are wired is unique to each individual.
Personality and Relationships
Most of us are allured by the attractive notion that effortless relationships exist. Whether it be happily-ever-after marriages, or friendships that last forever, or parent/child bonds which supersede the need to understand each other, we'd all like to believe that our most intimate relationships are unconditional, and strong enough to withstand whatever may come. However, at some point in our lives most of us need to face the fact that relationships require effort to keep them strong and positive, and that even wonderful, strong relationships can be destroyed by neglect.
Whether you're looking to improve a love relationship, familial relationships, friendships, or employer/employee relationship, understanding your own personality type and the personality type of the other person involved in the relationship will bring a new dynamic to the situation, which will allow better understanding and communication.
Who are we attracted to and why?
Although the different types of relationships have very different characteristics and specific needs, there are two basic areas which seem to be critical in all relationships: Expectations and Communication. What do we expect from ourselves and the other person involved in the relationship? How do we communicate these expectations, and our feelings and opinions to the person in the relationship? How does our personality type affect our expectations and methods of communication? Does our personality type affect who we are romantically attracted to? How does it affect who our friends are, and who we work with best? These are the questions which we address in this section of The Personality Page.
When choosing a partner everyone has a subconscious shopping list, or not. Perhaps that’s why the divorce rate is so high because our shopping list is too short or we completely disregard our preferences and focus on external looks.
For sure the older you get and the more relationships you have the longer your list tends to be, but there is always compromise. Many people often leap into a relationship without really knowing the partner and never stop to think of the veneer.
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Personality Types - OCEAN or Big 5
Personality tests are beloved by high school guidance counselors and self-help book authors — but less so by many scientists. There’s controversy among them over whether clear-cut personality types exist at all.
A large new study published in Nature Human Behavior, however, provides evidence for the existence of at least four personality types: average, reserved, self-centered and role model. Each one is based on the extent to which people display five different major character traits, including neuroticism, extraversion, openness, agreeableness and conscientiousness.
“It seemed like personality traits were very well-accepted and established in psychometrics, but personality types were not,” says study co-author Luis Amaral, a professor of chemical and biological engineering at Northwestern University. “I just wondered, could it be that the reason why people haven’t been able to establish personality types was there wasn’t enough data?”
However, there are many different views on the 4, 5, 12, 16 or whatever number personality types there are.
One concept is the 'Big Five' personality categories, which are Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness and Neuroticism (hence this is often referred to as 'Ocean'. This is what our personality test calculates.
Another is Myers-Briggs, which we show below the OCEAN model.
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Personality Types - Myers-Briggs
The MBTI measures four things.Outlooks: extraversion / introversionThe first is extraversion (E) and introversion (I). Extraverts are people who get energy from the outside world. Extraverts like to spend their time with other people. Introverts are people who get energy from the inside world. Introverts tend to get energy from thinking and reflecting.Information gathering: sensing / intuitionThe second measure is sensing (S) and intuition (N). Sensing and intuition are ways of gathering information. People who are sensing trust facts. Sensing people accept things if they can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell them. People who tend to like intuition are more likely to accept outcomes based on other people and meanings that cannot be tested.Decision making: thinking / feelingThe third measure is thinking (T) and feeling (F). Thinking and feeling are ways that people make decisions. Those who prefer thinking tend to make decisions alone. They heavily weigh reason, good sense, order, and cause and effect. Those who prefer feeling are more likely to think of the effect that a decision may have on other people. They tend to try to gain balance and agreement with everyone that is involved.Those who prefer thinking do not “think better” than those who prefer Feeling, and those who prefer feeling do not make decisions based only on people.Dealing with others: judging / perceivingThe last measure is of judging (J) and perceiving (P). Judging and perceiving detail how people deal with the outside world. A person who likes Judging tends to report that they use Thinking or feeling to deal with the outside world. A person who likes perceiving tends to report that they use sensing or intuition to deal with the outside world.Simple Wiki16Personalitites have a good description of the types here
This is possibly the best known categorisation of personality types, where the four categories are introversion/extraversion, sensing/intuition, thinking/feeling, judging/perceiving. Each person is said to have one preferred quality from each category, producing 16 unique types. See the wheel below showing the options. Click the link below to take a version of the test online. Then note your type and see what it means below.
While the official, MBTI-branded version of the test is paid, there is a free version available that many people find to be just as helpful: the 16 Personality Types test
The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator is an introspective self-report questionnaire indicating differing psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions. The test attempts to assign four categories: introversion or extraversion, sensing or intuition, thinking or feeling, judging or perceiving.(Wikipedia)
You can see the specific personality types in the tab on the right, with links to more information on each type. You can see a video in the next tab showing what types are compatible. The final tab sets out the cognitive functions for each type.
Society expectation - It’s all in the DNA
For decades society has stereotyped men's and women's roles, behaviour, beliefs and attitudes. Since the 1900s society has seen two world wars and many localised wars between communities, countries, cultures, religions and homelands. This has created a state of society of depression, uncertainty, famine, unemployment, death and disease.
As each decade has come and gone the humans born in that decade are wired slightly differently. Scientific research shows us children born between the two world wars had DNA suitable for those times; maturing faster, more resilient etc. As each decade comes along and the social environment improves, e.g. disease is less and there is little famine or starvation, then the DNA is adjusted to the fact that humans have a different set of drivers, worries and concerns.
If we look to western society from the 70s there was a “feel-good factor status” with humans’ environment not suffering from war, famine, disease etc. There was a social safety net and NHS service created, the emergence of equality and society had an element of calm. Therefore, the offspring DNA produced during this period was very different from that produced in the 20s and 40s.
Society also played its part in moulding views, education, beliefs and respects. Millennials have been classified negatively as snowflakes. It is fair to say it’s not their fault they are a product of a more liberalised society and a feel-good factor environment, where they really want for nothing and all their basic needs are met. A young person in the 40s worried about survival and starvation as opposed to a young person of 2020 who worries about negative comments made about their hairstyle on social media.
From the 70s to the millennial society, if we look at stereotypical behaviour between men and women the imagery comes through of men being breadwinners and women being nest makers. WW2 changed a lot of that as women did the same work as men and the 60s saw changes in equality rights. But deep down, even in 2020 there are many men who take on the mantle of being the breadwinner, and when things go wrong the modern male does not always cope well.
Personality and character can change with time and maturity
As we age, we become more consciously competent and this effects our personality and character. It can also develop personality anomalies and disorders. There are 4 well known learning stages in life that are detailed below. But we would like to build upon this concept to extend it beyond just education and skill. This is about life learning as well. In the Buddhist philosophy Buddha often refers to the path of enlightenment, this is in a way similar to conscious competence and emotional intelligence. The more learning and understanding we seek the wiser we become and the more fulfilled we are.
Suicide rates in the UK are highest amongst men between 40 to 49 according to the Samaritans.
A worrying trend developing over the last 10 years is a steady increase in young people suicides under 25. There is some evidence based around this but in many instances middle aged men are finding it hard to deal with life and the pressure that brings. Governments do need to act. In a similar way young people are struggling to cope with life issues.
Life Learning - the four stage journey
The individual does not understand or know how to do something and does not necessarily recognize the deficit. They may deny the usefulness of the skill. The individual must recognize their own incompetence, and the value of the new skill, before moving on to the next stage. The length of time an individual spends in this stage depends on the strength of the stimulus to learn.
Though the individual does not understand or know how to do something, they recognize the deficit, as well as the value of a new skill in addressing the deficit. The making of mistakes can be integral to the learning process at this stage.
The individual understands or knows how to do something. However, demonstrating the skill or knowledge requires concentration. It may be broken down into steps, and there is heavy conscious involvement in executing the new skill.
The individual has had so much practice with a skill that it has become "second nature" and can be performed easily. As a result, the skill can be performed while executing another task. The individual may be able to teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned.
In more recent times academics have developed a 5th stage called reflective competence with the ability to look back and around and learn from the experience and pass onto others.
Are knowledge and wisdom personality changers?
A most sought-after question is:”Does wisdom come with age?” Well, the answer is: absolutely not. Knowledge and constant learning bring wisdom.
According to an adult learning organisation 2018 survey more than 50% of the adult population of the UK have a numerical capacity of an 11-year-old child and less than 15% of adults do self-learning after they leave mainstream education other than job related learning.
Medical research has shown that learned knowledge can have an impact on an individual’s personality and character. For example, if a person has held a long-established belief and that belief changes as a result of education, knowledge, wisdom and current mental thought process then a shift in personality or character can take place resulting in a permanent change in behaviour.
How do you define wisdom?
Aristotle believed in two types of wisdom: theoretical and practical. The former involves the exploration of things we can’t change, but about which we seek truth. The latter explores that which we can change through making good choices (Lacewing, n.d.).
Descartes’s viewed wisdom as good judgment in everyday life and seeking knowledge in all things one is able (Rutherford, 2017).
By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.
Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise man, gathering it little by little, fills himself with good.
What is your Locus of Control?
Locus of control is a psychological concept that refers to how strongly people believe they have control over the situations and experiences that affect their lives.
Within psychology, Locus of Control is considered to be an important aspect of personality. The concept was developed originally by Julian Rotter in the 1950s (Rotter, 1966). Locus of Control refers to an individual's perception about the underlying main causes of events in his/her life.
Taking personal responsibility
People look at things differently. Some people believe things happen to them, while others believe they can influence what happens to them. Technically this is called the ‘locus of control’. People can have an Internal or external Locus of Control:
More likely to take responsibility for actions
Tend to be less influenced by others .
Blame outside forces for what happens
Don’t believe they can change their situation themselves .
People tend to take more responsibility (locus gets more internal) as they get older. However, external isn’t always bad – for example if you are physically unable to do some things you can accept it and focus on the things you can do. The American video shown via the link below explains the concept and gives examples of how this can affect relationships.
Can you change your locus of control?
The good news is that while your upbringing shapes your locus of control, it is possible to change it and become more internal than external. See the video for more info.
How do you improve locus of control?
Focus on what you can control. Ask yourself: “What do I want from my life?” Next make two separate lists. Looking at your steps, note what you have control over and what you don’t. Then reflect on your strengths. Create a plan for how you’ll use your strengths to address the steps you have control over.
How do you see things?
If you want to find out how you see things, you can take a test to show what your locus of control is. Most of the tests are based on work by Rotter dating back to 1966 – many have been updated since.
My Personality Test have a 10 minute test which gives you a summary.
We have a test on our site – click the button below to open tabs – the first contains the test and the second has some information on what it means. To close the tabs hit the X in the top corner.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Control .
Emotional control, or emotional regulation, is about how well we can manage and control our emotions, or more precisely, our emotional reactions. It's about learning to stay calm when handling small problems, and reacting with just the right amount of emotional reaction given the situation..
There are extremes of emotional intelligence; some people who have high and low levels, and each has positive and negative traits. Lots of research seems to indicate that with high emotional intelligent there are lots of positive traits and no negative traits, and low emotional intelligence is negative. In real life there are people with high levels of emotional intelligence who can be extremely bossy and impatient, and there are people with low levels of emotional intelligence who are very collaborative and have a very caring and patient nature.
Does it help?
Learning about you and how to manage your emotions in turn helps you with the way you deal with other situations. But having said that a highly skilled emotionally intelligent person can lose their temper or become aggressive in exactly the same way as a low emotionally intelligent person. It really boils down to what temperament and character you have as well.
Do we get more emotional control as we get older?
Not necessarily, you would like to think so but as most adults stop purposeful learning after leaving school it’s not guaranteed.
How to improve emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is about taking charge of our brain and thinking. It’s the same as taking up a physical fitness programme at the gym. Look how people often turn their flab into a toned muscular body and develop a regime of control over their body, what they eat, when they eat etc. They take charge of their bodies. Emotional intelligence is the mental gym.
Can someone help?
People are often looking for quick fix solutions to the mental health situations and it’s just not that easy. There isn’t a magic pill or formula. Many people allow their brain to control their emotions and thinking, but importantly won’t put the effort in to fix the matter.
Life coaches can help people take the first step, which may even be recognising a problem for what it is.
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