Welcome to your Emotional Abuse Questionnaire.  More than one million people have taken this scientific-based Emotional Abuse Test  - it's available online and requires no email.

This questionnaire is from GoSmart Life, a website from couple therapist Abe Kass, MA RSW RMFT CCHT.  The results of this Emotional Abuse Test are not definitive, and for the most accurate results seek the counsel of a certified relationship specialist.  Neither we nor the author assume any responsibility for any inaccuracies or unintended misinformation. The user of this Emotional Abuse Test and associated information does so at his or her own risk.




1. My partner never admits when he or she is wrong.

2. My partner is unwilling to adapt to my needs and expectations.

3. My partner is more insensitive than caring.

4. I am often forced to sacrifice my own needs to meet my partner's needs.

5. My partner refuses to talk about problems that make him or her look bad.

6. My partner withholds affection unless it would benefit him or her.

7. It's hard to disagree with my partner because he or she gets angry.

8. My partner resents being questioned about the way he or she treats me.

9. My partner builds himself or herself up by putting me down.

10. My partner retaliates when I disagree with him or her.

11. My partner is always trying to change me.

12. My partner believes he or she has the right to force me to do things.

13. My partner is overly possessive or jealous.

14. My partner makes it difficult for me to visit with my family and friends.

15. My partner tries to cover over his or her bad behaviour suggesting I don't know what I am talking about, or I am exaggerating, or I am crazy.

If your score indicated that you may be the victim of emotional abuse, then we strongly recommend you take steps to address the problem.  If you allow this to continue, you will feel anxious and are likely to become depressed, and the longer it continues the more difficult it is to escape and heal.

It's also possible that the emotional abuse will escalate into physical abuse and domestic violence.  If that is already present, you really need to get help from trusted authorities - see Refuge helpline.   Safety comes first - for yourself and family members.

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  • The many ways that emotional abuse destroys relationships
  • The different types of emotional abuse that victims suffer from
  • The difference between normal marital conflict and an emotional abuse marriage or an emotionally abusive relationship
  • The role of anger in emotional abuse
  • Gender differences in how abuse is expressed
  • The five dynamics that characterize emotional abuse
  • Why, if you are the victim of emotional abuse, it is not your fault
  • The answer to the question: Can emotional abusers change?
  • What to do if there is domestic violence in your marriage or committed relationship
  • How to prevent emotional abuse in the future
  • ....and much more

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